Speaking On Behalf of Attached Girls

i always have this conversation about guys in general with a particular friend.
and sometimes "complaining" about what our boyfriends did and did not do.
most of the time, we will be saying things like these:

"oh my god! my bf is also the same!"
"yeah, mine's exactly like this too!"
"correct, i totally agree with you."
"are all guys the same as our boyfriends?"

our situation is so similar that made me come to this conclusion : guys are all the same. girls, on the other hand, are all the same too. all girls expect something from their partners, but all guys can't meet the expectations (at the same time think all girls expect too much). though i'm sure there are some exceptions out there.

a girl expects love and attention from her bf.
that doesn't mean buying her expensive gifts, celebrating monthly anniversary with fine-dining (god knows what other anniversaries), and bringing her for luxurious holidays. all these are considered as bonuses though.

you know what makes my day?
to see a simple sms that says "I LOVE YOU" when i wake up.
something as simple as that. isn't too difficult to be done right?

a girl also wants to feel that her guy cares a lot for her.
like asking her to call whenever she reaches her destination when traveling alone. better still, the guy calls her even before she does. and i don't think that's too much to ask for.

guys should at least have the courtesy to inform the girls about their whereabouts. that should free the girls from unnecessary worries. maybe you guys think it's something very trivial. but it matters a lot for the girls. you have no idea what funny images run through my head when i can't get him through the phone. practically can't do anything. just sit and wait and worry. and imagine how furious i get when he casually says, "oh, i forgot to tell. sorry."
after all that, he thinks i am over reacting. it's not our fault for caring too much over you guys. just because guys don't care as much, doesn't mean we don't.

and why do we get mad all the time over matters that you think are not worth being mad about?
that's because you all don't respond. you merely brush us off as lunatics. crazy for attention.
we start to get fed up. we ignore you guys.
you guys don't really do anything.
we try to suppress our anger.
then you guys pretend as if nothing happened few days later. we get even more pissed.
here comes the war.

you think we get angry too easily.
but how sure are you that we have not been keeping quiet on some occasions?
that sometimes we just swallow and try not to wallow in despair?

but what makes a girl reaches her limit of patience is when a guy doesn't keep his promise.
especially when it's a promise he made on his own. not forced on a gun point.
and if the girl throws a tantrum over this matter, is it the girl's fault for not being able to control herself, or the guy for not keeping to his words?

about why we get upset so easily.
simple.
we love the guy too much.
we want the relationship to be a perfect one.
we want to correct every flaws.

but why can't we do it the diplomatic way, you asked?
simple.
guys will never pay attention when we talk to them nicely.

we tried the soft way, it doesn't work.
but when we do it the hard way, you guys complain we are over reacting.

in my humble opinion, a relationship gives more trouble than pleasure.
think about it, when you are single, do you have to worry when the guy doesn't call?
do you have to wonder if the guy really likes you?
do you have to go to bed every night thinking if he thinks about you too?
do you have to suspect if he's having another gf when he doesn't call as often?
do you have to worry about your future together?

and most importantly,
do you have to be over reacting all the time?

i'm not speaking on behalf of ALL girls. of course some beg to differ.